Criticism is a scary word to some people. It holds a whole universe of fear and terror for some.
But like everything, you can learn to be friends with the big bad criticism in your life.
You don’t have to cower in the corner, shy away from your boss, leave the continent and never be seen or heard of again, as I would likely have done in the past.
I recently received some minor criticism on an article I had published, named “men and their exes”.
This wasn’t just any criticism…this was personal criticism.
It was directed at my home life and the relationship I share with my partner, and, as you can imagine, it cut deep.
And after I had wallowed in self pity and hung my head like the “naughty girl” I am, for upsetting someone else, I began to realise that actually, that is just this person’s opinion.
And why should I care about their opinion?
I knew that what was said had no truth in it at all.
I just hate the thought that someone thinks bad of me.
But in the words of Rihanna, “people gon’ talk whether you’re doing bad or good”
And after all, criticism, is just someone’s opinion.
Ask another person and they will probably tell you something different.
Maybe they’ll even tell you that what you have done is great!
The great thing about criticism is that, it helps anyone and everyone to look at their work, reevaluate and readjust, readapt their work if they really care about it that much and it makes them better at what they do.
It fuels the fire of greatness!
In my case, I’m not going to change anything about the article I published, because what I did write is the truth.
And in life, in writing, I hold the truth higher than anything.
That is my opinion.
If the criticism had been something like “it’s so boring!”, “Their are spelling mistakes all over the joint!”, then maybe, just maybe, I might have tweaked something.
What I have learnt from this particular experience though, and what we can all gain knowledge from, is that:
A-their is always going to be someone who has a different opinion to you and who is going to feel outgoing enough to express their opinion in a way that offends,
And B-to reevaluate all work, to look at how others might see it and make changes as and where appropriate.
So if you have somebody who likes to occasionally tell you what they think, accept it, learn from it.
Tears will be wasted if you cry over this great opportunity to improve yourself.
Befriend the great criticism!
If, on the other hand, you have a big bad wolf in your life who likes to tell you that they are right and you are wrong very often, then I strongly suggest you tell them where to go.
Because you are right, and you know you’re right.
And it’s about time you started believing that.