A new era

Time has passed since I last wrote to you all and for you all.

I must admit, it’s been hard to find the right time, in between my new job, dealing with my mental illness, my emotions, my physical health, managing finances and trying to have fun in between.

I found a job working part time, and whilst it’s not fulfilling my dreams of living my best life possible, it’s helping to pay my bills, keep my mind occupied, and also most importantly, to help someone else.

I came across an online course titled ‘Interior Design’ and because I have always loved decorating and have previously thought about a career in such a field, I decided to take a risk and jump in.
Needless to say, I have loved every minute of studying and reading and researching.
I still have a lot of course work to submit, but it am determined to get it done.
Still, I am bearing in mind that even this may not hold the key to my dreams, but it’s definitely worth the effort and the try.
What I am enjoying most about it is that, I am already thinking like a professional, analysing the characteristics of interiors and visualising changes I personally would make.

My beloved Lew and I recently went to the one and only fabulous Brighton for the ‘foodies festival’ which was amazing!
On return from that most wonderful day out, we decided that it should be time for us to book a real break, a proper holiday.
After much deliberation and organising of appointments etc etc, we decided on a luxurious break in Portugal.
A 5 star couples only kinda break.
It will be my first taste of real luxury abroad and I am so looking forward to another break from everything.

This year has been topsy turvy without a doubt so far, after my diagnosis of depression and PTSD, if it has taught me anything, it’s that looking after myself is of paramount importance.

We fly out next week and I will probably be away for a while, so until then my friends and followers.

Much love and take care of yourselves

Beth

How to…be a good person

As I have grown up, one issue Iv had has been prevalent and unrelenting in my mind.
Am I a good person? The answer to this question matters to me.

At times when I have been doing my best, I have doubted myself and at times when I have been acting up, rebelling and doing everything possible to upset others, I have believed myself to be the greatest person on earth.
I wonder why that is.

So, you see, as a much older, wiser and mature student of life, I keep a set of rules, or standards if you like, which determine whether I’m being a good person or not.

Here they are.

1. Be honest.
In the past, I have told lies and fibs. I have withheld the truth from people, like the time I took a bracelet and told my mum it was a gift from a friend, just to avoid getting a slap.
Lying causes so much damage everyday and it feels horrid to blatantly lie to someone’s face. They are asking for the truth and trusting you with their hearts, so why disrespect that? It says a lot more about the liar than the victim.

2. Help everyone out.
We can help everyone, from retweeting their business details to re homing an abandoned puppy. We all have the choice to make a difference in the world and those small changes add up to big ones, so choose carefully.
Helping others also creates a strong social circle for yourself, so if you value friends and family, do something nice for them. Show your appreciation of them. Be a good person.

3. DO NOT sell yourself short.
A lot of the time these days, I see young girls and women and even guys doing the “friends with benefits” thing. Often, one side of the relationship is totally hooked on the other and is holding out for when they are really going to commit to them. This is wrong. If that person wanted a relationship with you, they’d have committed by now. They would have treated you the way you deserve to be treated.
Mind this at work too and in other aspects of your life.
Do not agree to do anything other than what makes you happy.

4. Do you.
Be yourself, because everyone else is taken.
You, yes you, have something special to give to the world and only you hold the key to that. Only you can give it to the world, no one else.
As a person, it’s easy to follow the crowd because you want to be liked and accepted. But chances are, hiding your true self away isn’t going to make you happy and life is too short to be unhappy, so be yourself and let everyone else follow you for a change.
Value your body, your talents and skills, your family and friends, the people who treat you right and the things you enjoy. That’s what life is made up of.

5. Live well.
The key to happiness and being a good person is not made up of just one ingredient.
At some point, your health is going to become important to you.
Make time for yourself, exercise, eat well, try new foods, take crazy selfies and laugh!
You could get hit by a bus tomorrow. Would you regret not spending that money when you had the chance? Would you regret not going to Italy when you had the chance?
Grab life by the horns and don’t let regrets stop you from moving forward.

Best of luck on your journey to becoming the best version of yourself that you can possibly be.

God bless

Beth

The only person that can save you, is you.

Life is tough.

You get to a certain age and then everything is on your shoulders.

As we become more and more independent, we have to take responsibility for our own lives.

We have to accept that the choices we have made so far, have got us in the situation we are in right now.

And the only way we can change that, is to make a different choice.

We have to save ourselves.

Work less, Live more: How to create satisfaction in your life.

I recently came across a very talented person’s inspiring blog site.

This blogger, has a personal belief, to ‘work less and live more’, and I thought, that would be awesome!

So, what do you think?
Could you work less and live more?

Imagine it.
There would be no alarm clocks.
No uniforms or suits to pull on.
No need for the breakfast rush.
No need for the commute.
No need for the colleagues who put you down or the boss who orders you around like no end.

There would be,
Lots of parties
Lots of opportunity to try new things
More family time
Less stress
More personal choice
Less money
A simpler life.

The question you have to ask yourself is, “are you willing to trade your time, your life for your job?”
If yes, then that’s okay, read no more.
If not, then ask yourself “are you willing to trade your time, your life, for something that you love doing?”

Now, I’m going to take a wild guess and imagine that your answer to the last question, is yes.

The thing is, most of us are worriers. There is always the talk of money, when it comes to jobs, careers, giving it all up and finally doing what you love in life etc.

I mean after all, we all have bills to pay and families to keep.

Ask yourself, “what is it that I love doing?”, “if money, time, people, jobs, did not tie me down, what would I be doing right now?”

When you know the answer to this, ask yourself “how can I make money doing what I love?”

This could prove tricky for the imagination that has been cut off so many times, but the most amazing thing is, that it could be absolutely anything!

If you love to write, start a blog online and use affiliate marketing to bring in some cash.
If you love to exercise, offer your services as a trainer or set up weekly classes for everyone in the community, charging a small amount for each participant.
If you love to act, act out your scenes and put them on YouTube!
If you love to make yourself look gorgeous and pretty, do that, take pictures, offer yourself up to modelling agencies or vlog how you do it via YouTube.
If you love to garden, cook, walk dogs, sit at home all day and relax, whatever it is you love doing, you can make money from it!

So don’t worry about it, don’t have a baby!
It will all be okay.
You know why?
Because you’re doing what you love.
You’re ineffectually, living life the way you want to live it.
And because you love it so much, you give 110% to all of it.
Therefore, productivity is boosted.
Happiness is boosted.
Stress is sent away and people love that!
People love services and products created by happy productive people who love what they’re doing!

So if you’re worried about money, don’t worry, because chances are, if you enjoy life, money will follow you and magically end up in your pocket before you know it.

So go ahead, book that holiday to the Bahamas! Impregnate your wife! Buy a mansion! Buy a Lamborghini! Do whatever it is that you want to do.

Because you know, life is short.
At any moment, life could stop completely and forever.
And to regret life, is to have not lived at all.

Moon, stars…and something to remember

I remember, being a little girl and staying up late at night with my parents.
I remember, going outside with them and being swooped up into my mum’s arms.
She told me “look at all the stars, aren’t they beautiful!”
And she sang “twinkle twinkle little star” to me.

Since then, I have held the stars and the moon, in the highest regard.

Every night, just by chance, I look out into the night sky, wondering if the stars are out.

Just lately, due to the skies being clearer and less cloudy, I have noticed more and more stars, and without fail, each night, I have seen the moon shining so brightly in the sky that the light shines through my curtains and illuminates my bedroom in the most spectacular of ways.
Better than candlelight.
More magical than daylight.

I love it so, looking at which one star shines the brightest, which shines the smallest and which star is the biggest.
I love it so, to look at the moon and tell what shape it is, to know how bright it is and how big it is.

I have promised myself, that this year, I will do more stargazing than I ever have before.

It is my intention, upon a warm night, to grab our friends, blankets and chairs, light a fire in the pit, take our bottles of wine with us and our mallows and our toasts and our teas, and relax, laugh and reminisce together whilst we watch the sky, the stars and the moon.
That is going to be a memory to remember.

Flawed: It’s okay

Advice from someone who knows.

“1. a feature that mars the perfection of something; defect; fault: beauty without flaw; the flaws in our plan”

Imperfection is perfection.

So,

You have hairy toes

You weigh ten to twenty pounds more than what you’d really like to

You bite your nails when you get nervous

You giggle at inappropriate moments

And, you always forget at least one thing when you go grocery shopping.

Guess what, you’re perfect!!!

You are the perfect imperfect version of yourself.

You, are you!

And you should be grateful for that.

Because their is no one out their that is quite as unique and as special as you are.

If you are lucky, you will know this, completely and whole heartedly.

But, if you don’t know this, you may have some things you want to change about yourself.

You want to be ‘that’ person you see in your mind’s eye.

If it means that much to you, do it.

Time is ticking. Life is short. Do what you want to do. Be who you want to be.

CAUTION: Often, we change our habits and lifestyles, ourselves and everything about us to impress others.
Changing things about yourself, for yourself can empower you if they are your genuine beliefs.
Changing things about yourself, for others, does not bode well for your future.
Because eventually, you will find a wall.
You will hit this wall.
And realise that deep down, you are still the same person as before.

Learn to accept yourself.
Learn to be proud of yourself, of everything you have been through and everything you have achieved. Even the little things. They matter too.

You matter.

All the little things about you, they matter.

Believe in yourself.

God bless

Good luck

I believe in you

Love to all

“You gotta speak up, you gotta shout out, talk a bit louder, be a bit prouder
and know that right here, right now,
You can be beautiful, wonderful, anything you want to be”

Letter to myself.

This is a very special kind of blog post.

It is a letter to myself.

Just lately, It’s becoming of greater importance to everyone these days, to look after our minds, to cultivate them and to have healthy body images, to love ourselves before others and to take care of ourselves before others.

The letter composed below, is an example of what I would say to myself right now, in this period of my life.
It is what my inner soul is telling me but my physical person refuses to believe.

All too often, we listen to our brains instead of our hearts.
This is an example of me, listening to my heart and expressing what’s inside.

Ask yourself today, what is your soul trying to tell you?
What are you refusing to believe?

Hopefully this experiment will encourage not only myself but all of us to listen to ourselves more, empower us to live lives the way we want to live and enable us all to be better happier persons.

And from thence, we start.

Dear Beth,

I wish you could see how happy you could be right now and for the rest of your life.
If only you could turn that switch off in your head and focus on what’s good in life.
Money is of no question. It doesn’t matter.
Stop worrying about how you’re going to pay bills and start living!
Their is a whole world of amazing experiences to be had, if you would just have them.

Stop being scared. Because fear is holding you back from doing what you really want to do.
Start loving more because people around you want your love and you not showing it as much as you can, allows them to think that you don’t love them at all.

Stop complaining and moaning all the time. You’re becoming a drip.

And also, start accepting, that this is you!
Yes, you are tough headed like your mum and yes, you are affectionate and physically resemble your dad.
Just because they made terrible mistakes in the past does not mean that you are destined to do the same.
You have the power to change your life and to make everything greater than they ever did.

When someone hurts you, you don’t have to give up on them and cut them off.
Dad did a lot of mean stuff but cutting him off has left him destitute and in a bad way and you still care about him! Don’t deny it!
You still care about your mother too and want to make things easy for her. You know it!
You want your little brother to grow up having opportunities you never did and financial freedom to live life to the fullest.
Start making those little changes. Start being the change they need.
Exude the care that is inside of you.

Beth, it’s important that you understand to just go with what’s going.
Just flow like yoga teaches you.
Just because you’re feeling this or doing that, does not mean that everything is a big disaster.
It’s just change and change is good.
Accept it. Love it. Live it.

Finally, like all great people have told you and taught you, love yourself above any other.
Take your time to do something you want to do. Treat yourself! Don’t deprive yourself! Don’t punish yourself! You don’t need to do that anymore.

Everything is going to be okay in the end. If it’s not okay, it’s not the end.
Just chill.
Just be.
Just be you.
Be strong and independent.
Take control of yourself, your past, your present and your future.
You can do it.
I believe in you.
God bless.

If I could hug you, I would.
If I could step outside of you, I would tell you everything is going to be okay, wipe your tears when they fall, hold you tight when you’re scared and love you when it seems like no one else does.
I would do all of that and more for you.
Because you mean everything to me.
You are me.
And together, we have to look after each other.
No one else can do it.
And I wouldn’t want to be coupled with anyone else in order to conquer this world.
I love you.

Yours sincerely and whole heartedly,
You.

Littlest pleasures in life

Everybody who has ever lived has known some kind of pleasure, no matter how great or small.
Here are some of the things that bring us a little piece of ecstasy every day.

Spreading out starfish in a big bed!
I don’t know about you but I just love the feeling of jumping into bed, and spreading out starfish style. It feels so good and the freshness and coldness of the bed gives me a buzz through my entire body.
Can’t beat that feeling.

Spending quality time with someone you love
What is more enjoyable and pleasant than spending quality time with someone you really love? Be it your mum, your sibling, your grandparent, your lover, your best friend even.
And when I say quality, I mean the kind of time spent doing something meaningful to both of you.
For me, my partner and I both enjoy snuggling down, watching movies on the sofa. I love going for walks with my little brother and I really enjoy having meaningful conversations with my nan.
It is also important for me, as an individual, to create quality time to spend with myself. For example, I will go to a yoga class or write in my journal or take a long hot steamy bath. Because it’s important to me, to make time for me.

Waking up without the alarm going off after a long restful sleep.
Oh that feeling! That feeling!
You know how it feels on a Saturday morning, after five long tiresome days of being literally forced out of bed by the alarm clock at 6am, to wake of your own accord in your big comfy warm and snuggly bed without that harsh beeping sound violating your ears.
That feeling is worth living for!

That feeling you get when you jump into a steamy hot bath after a stressful day.
(Let me rephrase-steamy hot bath that doesn’t burn when you jump in!)
It’s been a long day.
The boss is getting up your arse about how you’re lacking
Your mum called asking when you’re coming over for dinner again
Your best friend wants your advice on her latest lover
And your brother wants a loan to invest in the latest fashionable death trap.
There is only one solution to the hustle and bustle of this crazy life.
That’s right! Jump in the bath!
The feeling you get, that “and release, and breathe” feeling cannot be replaced with any other I know of.
Feeling stressed? You know what to do.

Eating warm food and taking warm drinks after coming in from the cold.
Ooohhhh remember those days that were snowed on and you couldn’t get to work so you went outside and played instead?
How could you forget?
That biting wind that sealed your extremities in a layer of frost?
Remember coming inside, stripping off your wet clothes, sitting down by the warmest place you could find with your soup and your tea?
Ahhh what bliss! The feeling of warmth running through your body again.

Feeling the warmth of the sun on your skin on a hot summers day 🙂
Ahhh the feeling of summer is nearby indeed.

A certain smell that reminds you of old times or old memories.
For me, the most potent scent I have ever come across and have only come across once since the last time I smelt it, is my grandfathers cigars.
What an amazing smell!

A small baby in your arms 🙂
Again this is one to tug at your heart strings.
That maternal feeling I get when I hold a little baby in my arms is unlike any other feeling I know.
It’s crazy but it’s there.
I can’t wait to have my own little family 🙂

Fresh open air!
When you go outside into the open after a long time shut away indoors and that long breath of cold fresh air invades your body.
It’s amazing isn’t it!

Candlelight.
Candlelight is an amazing source of calm.
You may not know it yet but lighting really affects your mood.
Bright and harsh lighting can make you feel alert and exactly that, harsh.
Soft and calm lighting makes you feel calm and sensible and sensitive and happy 🙂

The feeling of accomplishing something!
So you’ve just finished the book you’ve been reading forever or you’ve just graduated from university!
No matter how big or small your accomplishment is, celebrate it!
Acknowledge that you have worked hard to get where you are because that feeling of greater understanding, of growth and gain is a feeling that should be and can be cherished over and over again 🙂 never get tired of accomplishing things 🙂

One word: PARTY!!!!!
Everyone loves a party.
When you can let your hair down, wear something really daring, get drunker than your aunt and dance in weird ways that you don’t really care about anymore.
The feeling of being able to do that and to have a good time is sweet.
Go out there, look for your party!!

Last but NOT LEAST
Receiving love and giving love.
For those of you who have families and have happiness and have gratitude and all of those wonderful things in your life, you will know the special feeling of giving love and getting it back in return.
Whether it’s with your best friend, from your baby son or daughter, your partner or wife or husband or your mum or dad.
Keep loving 🙂

Life is 100,000,000 million times better when you’re laughing.

Life is a hundred million times better when you’re laughing.

Why?

Because you are doing something which you love.
Which you’re passionate about.
Having fun.

We all want to have fun right?
And when you’re doing more of that, life is less like a chore and more like a blessing.

In terms of career and work and creating an income,
How can you make money by doing what you love?

In terms of a relationship,
How can you better your relationship by doing what you love?

In terms of family,
How can you be there for them by doing what you love?

These questions all heed great answers don’t they.
But it’s hard to make money doing something you love.
It’s just not that easy…right?
Wrong!!!

You know what, if you love doing something, do it!
Do it as much or as little as you want to regardless of how much money it brings.

And in the end, when you’re having fun and doing what you love, others see that too and infinitesimally want a piece of that, increasing your chances of greater income and giving you the life you want.

Start today.

God bless 😊
Keep going!!

How to get the best from life, now!

It is time now, to stop worrying.
It is time now, to stop doubting yourself.
It is time now, to realise how much your life is worth.

Chances are that if you’re reading this article, you are stuck in a rut in life and want to find a way out, or you are just curious as to how you can improve the quality of your life.

As a young woman who has been there and done that, got the t-shirt and the battle scars to go with it, I can honestly tell you that life on the other side isn’t as hard as you may think it is.

You can regain a better perspective of life, you can find yourself, you can start again.
Because life is about you, what you want, and how you’re going to get it.

First and foremost, you must take responsibility for yourself.
Accept that this is where you have got yourself in life so far,
for whatever reasons that may be.
But you must understand that this is not your “fault”.
This is your time to change.

Next, you must become selfish!
Think about yourself and what you want, because no one else is going to do it or achieve it for you.
You are number one and you must put yourself first at all times.

Don’t know what you really want from life?
Think about how you would describe yourself.
Are you happy?
Are you sad?
Why?
Where do you want to be in five years time?
What makes you, you?
What are your values, your talents and you passions?
What makes you happy?
What are you thankful for?

In order to move forward and make positive changes to our lifestyles, we must first gain greater understanding of who we really are and what it is that we really want for ourselves.

Answering these questions won’t fix all your problems, but your answers will hopefully enable you to become aware of what makes you happy, what it is that you really want and who you want to be.

The next step, is to go out into the world and be you! Make them changes!
Do what it is that you want to do, be who you want to be, don’t let anyone stop you!
Find courage, feel the fear and do it anyway.
You can do it. I believe in you!

In addition to the above steps, there are some things you can do to cultivate more happiness in your life.

Travel to new places!
It broadens our experiences and allows us to learn new things about the world.

Talk to someone. Get yourself out there, go to a new class, talk to someone you have never talked to before and make new friends!
A good support system is what every happy and healthy person needs during tough times.
Don’t forget about the friends you already have though, they will be missing you too!

Play sports! Dance! Swim! Do anything!
Exercise is a proven feel good activity and can enhance your happiness millions of times over.
It’s great for the muscles and for your heart health too and it releases those ever important happy hormones.

Find your creative outlet!
Do you enjoy writing? Do you enjoy drawing? Creating music? Painting? Scrap booking? Gardening?
Whatever you enjoy, there is a million and one classes and art and craft stores all over the nation ready and willing to help you get started. Plus, using your hands to do practical things increases happiness!

Get outside!
Go for a walk, a hike, go for a bike ride, a run!
You know what, get down to the park and take a picnic with you!
Enjoy what the world has to offer. It is here for you to see.
It is here for your perusal. Fresh air and green spaces are key to finding peace and happiness in life.

Finally, if you are really finding it tough to cope with life, do not be afraid to ask for help.
Do not doubt yourself or listen to those people who think you should “just snap out of it”.
You know yourself, trust your instincts and go to the doctor.

Although many people do not like the idea of taking medication to get happy, it really does help you to feel better and to gain a clearer understanding and perspective of yourself.

Don’t hesitate.

Take care.

Bethany B