How to…be a good person

As I have grown up, one issue Iv had has been prevalent and unrelenting in my mind.
Am I a good person? The answer to this question matters to me.

At times when I have been doing my best, I have doubted myself and at times when I have been acting up, rebelling and doing everything possible to upset others, I have believed myself to be the greatest person on earth.
I wonder why that is.

So, you see, as a much older, wiser and mature student of life, I keep a set of rules, or standards if you like, which determine whether I’m being a good person or not.

Here they are.

1. Be honest.
In the past, I have told lies and fibs. I have withheld the truth from people, like the time I took a bracelet and told my mum it was a gift from a friend, just to avoid getting a slap.
Lying causes so much damage everyday and it feels horrid to blatantly lie to someone’s face. They are asking for the truth and trusting you with their hearts, so why disrespect that? It says a lot more about the liar than the victim.

2. Help everyone out.
We can help everyone, from retweeting their business details to re homing an abandoned puppy. We all have the choice to make a difference in the world and those small changes add up to big ones, so choose carefully.
Helping others also creates a strong social circle for yourself, so if you value friends and family, do something nice for them. Show your appreciation of them. Be a good person.

3. DO NOT sell yourself short.
A lot of the time these days, I see young girls and women and even guys doing the “friends with benefits” thing. Often, one side of the relationship is totally hooked on the other and is holding out for when they are really going to commit to them. This is wrong. If that person wanted a relationship with you, they’d have committed by now. They would have treated you the way you deserve to be treated.
Mind this at work too and in other aspects of your life.
Do not agree to do anything other than what makes you happy.

4. Do you.
Be yourself, because everyone else is taken.
You, yes you, have something special to give to the world and only you hold the key to that. Only you can give it to the world, no one else.
As a person, it’s easy to follow the crowd because you want to be liked and accepted. But chances are, hiding your true self away isn’t going to make you happy and life is too short to be unhappy, so be yourself and let everyone else follow you for a change.
Value your body, your talents and skills, your family and friends, the people who treat you right and the things you enjoy. That’s what life is made up of.

5. Live well.
The key to happiness and being a good person is not made up of just one ingredient.
At some point, your health is going to become important to you.
Make time for yourself, exercise, eat well, try new foods, take crazy selfies and laugh!
You could get hit by a bus tomorrow. Would you regret not spending that money when you had the chance? Would you regret not going to Italy when you had the chance?
Grab life by the horns and don’t let regrets stop you from moving forward.

Best of luck on your journey to becoming the best version of yourself that you can possibly be.

God bless

Beth

Write my life

It all began 4 days after Christmas in 1992.
At 9:42, I squeezed out of my mums belly and I became Bethany.
My mum took me home with her and I lived in a big house with my two older brothers, my sister, my parents, and various animals including cats, dogs, mice, guinea pigs, rabbits and fish.

I had such a great childhood.
It was filled with lovely people such as my three nanas, my grandad and my huge families including numerous cousins and aunties and uncles.
My brothers, sister and I were always outside, creating mischief wherever we went, although there were the odd days when we would sit down and make perfumes from cold rain water and flower petals, or daisy chains from the green outside our front door.
We were always getting into trouble and often we would get punished for it.
I remember that I once took a bracelet from a store where my older brother had been to get new shoes.
Yup, I got smacked that evening.
But us kids were happy together and we had so much fun.

When I was nine, things started to go wrong and my dad flipped out and went totally crazy on us all.
I won’t go into too much detail but let’s just say, my siblings and I were made victims to the onslaught.
For years, the fighting and the arguing went on between us all and it saw my parents split and my childhood home vanish from our hands into the hands of strangers.
My achievements at school had gone from good to bad to worse. The girls I went to school with began to make fun of me and the problems I was having at home and at the age of 13, I dropped out of school altogether.

My mum, my siblings and I had moved several times since our parents split and we had found it extremely hard to make ends meet.
Some days we struggled to eat and struggled to keep warm. My mum told me that if I wanted a new coat for the snow, bearing in mind I didn’t have one, then I had to get a job and pay for it myself.
Even when the lock on our front door broke and we couldn’t afford to get it fixed, we had to leave the door hanging on the latch and my brothers would make sure no one would come in whilst we were sleeping in the night.
During this period of our lives, my mum had another baby.
My little brother Leo, who I adore with my entire being.

About that time, I started running off to London for weeks at a time, to escape the pain I was feeling at home. My sister was bullying me and my dad kept coming back to our home to threaten and hurt our mum.
I would meet strangers on the street and they would become friends.
I had a different boyfriend every two weeks and I rarely ate any food.
I was 14 years old.

On my final evening in London, I had been locked up in a house by a “friend”. She had left me there with two adult guys.
One of them threatened to take my belongings and force me to perform a sexual act on him at knifepoint.
Luckily though, the other male saved me from this ordeal and managed to get me out of the house and to the nearest bus stop for me to get back to where I was staying.

The next day, stunned at the event of the previous evening, I decided enough was enough, and I went back to my mums house.

I lolled for months.
By this time I was 15.
I didn’t get a job, I ate so much junk food, never exercised, watched tv all day and cried about how crappy life was for me.

When I turned 16, I was rushed to hospital for emergency surgery.
My spleen had spontaneously ruptured and I was dying from internal bleeding.
Somehow, by pure miracle and lots of amazing life saving people working in the hospital, I lived to tell the story.

It took a long time for me to get over the trauma of the event but eventually, I started to build a life for myself.
I learned new things, got myself a job, cared more about other people, made friends,
And I even got to travel to a few cool places like Italy.

The one thing that held me down though, was the fact that I had by then, developed a severe eating disorder.

After a couple of years, I was on the road to recovery and was aiming higher and higher and achieving more and more. My future looked bright. I was happy and healthy.

Then came the next blow.
My aunt, who had previously won a battle against ovarian cancer, had learned that the cancer had come back and this time, there was too little time to save her.
She went into a hospice and I remember our final meeting there.
I don’t want to go into any further detail from here.

I went to her funeral. I cried.
I still don’t feel like I have grieved enough for her but that will come in time.

Around that time, anorexia had relapsed within me and I began to control my food intake and exercise again, this time even more so severely.

I met a man named Lewis and about a month after we had begun dating, he asked me to be his girlfriend.
I said yes.

Almost two years later and we have had so many ups and downs but our relationship is definitely worth fighting for.

In recent months, I have been diagnosed with severe clinical depression and given medication to take for it.
I quit the job I was unhappy in and now I have no income.
I am happier.
But I am seeking a new life for myself.
I am seeking something better for myself.

To be continued…

I’m writing an E-Book

So, it has been a few weeks since I posted here at blueskybrightsunshine.

But I have been extremely busy working on new material for the upcoming e-book, “Life lessons from a 21 year old” which is set for publication on 16th April 2014.

It is my first publication and will be available on all major internet bookstores, such as Lulu.com, Barnes and Noble, iBooks and Amazon Kindle.

I have high hopes for this book and have been pouring my heart, soul and entire past into it, so I really hope that it is enjoyed by many.

It has been a turbulent start to 2014 for me, but with a little love and perseverance, day by day, I am learning and growing into a new, better version of myself and I can’t wait to share it with all you beautiful people.

Thanks for reading.

Beth.

The only person that can save you, is you.

Life is tough.

You get to a certain age and then everything is on your shoulders.

As we become more and more independent, we have to take responsibility for our own lives.

We have to accept that the choices we have made so far, have got us in the situation we are in right now.

And the only way we can change that, is to make a different choice.

We have to save ourselves.

Work less, Live more: How to create satisfaction in your life.

I recently came across a very talented person’s inspiring blog site.

This blogger, has a personal belief, to ‘work less and live more’, and I thought, that would be awesome!

So, what do you think?
Could you work less and live more?

Imagine it.
There would be no alarm clocks.
No uniforms or suits to pull on.
No need for the breakfast rush.
No need for the commute.
No need for the colleagues who put you down or the boss who orders you around like no end.

There would be,
Lots of parties
Lots of opportunity to try new things
More family time
Less stress
More personal choice
Less money
A simpler life.

The question you have to ask yourself is, “are you willing to trade your time, your life for your job?”
If yes, then that’s okay, read no more.
If not, then ask yourself “are you willing to trade your time, your life, for something that you love doing?”

Now, I’m going to take a wild guess and imagine that your answer to the last question, is yes.

The thing is, most of us are worriers. There is always the talk of money, when it comes to jobs, careers, giving it all up and finally doing what you love in life etc.

I mean after all, we all have bills to pay and families to keep.

Ask yourself, “what is it that I love doing?”, “if money, time, people, jobs, did not tie me down, what would I be doing right now?”

When you know the answer to this, ask yourself “how can I make money doing what I love?”

This could prove tricky for the imagination that has been cut off so many times, but the most amazing thing is, that it could be absolutely anything!

If you love to write, start a blog online and use affiliate marketing to bring in some cash.
If you love to exercise, offer your services as a trainer or set up weekly classes for everyone in the community, charging a small amount for each participant.
If you love to act, act out your scenes and put them on YouTube!
If you love to make yourself look gorgeous and pretty, do that, take pictures, offer yourself up to modelling agencies or vlog how you do it via YouTube.
If you love to garden, cook, walk dogs, sit at home all day and relax, whatever it is you love doing, you can make money from it!

So don’t worry about it, don’t have a baby!
It will all be okay.
You know why?
Because you’re doing what you love.
You’re ineffectually, living life the way you want to live it.
And because you love it so much, you give 110% to all of it.
Therefore, productivity is boosted.
Happiness is boosted.
Stress is sent away and people love that!
People love services and products created by happy productive people who love what they’re doing!

So if you’re worried about money, don’t worry, because chances are, if you enjoy life, money will follow you and magically end up in your pocket before you know it.

So go ahead, book that holiday to the Bahamas! Impregnate your wife! Buy a mansion! Buy a Lamborghini! Do whatever it is that you want to do.

Because you know, life is short.
At any moment, life could stop completely and forever.
And to regret life, is to have not lived at all.

Letter to myself.

This is a very special kind of blog post.

It is a letter to myself.

Just lately, It’s becoming of greater importance to everyone these days, to look after our minds, to cultivate them and to have healthy body images, to love ourselves before others and to take care of ourselves before others.

The letter composed below, is an example of what I would say to myself right now, in this period of my life.
It is what my inner soul is telling me but my physical person refuses to believe.

All too often, we listen to our brains instead of our hearts.
This is an example of me, listening to my heart and expressing what’s inside.

Ask yourself today, what is your soul trying to tell you?
What are you refusing to believe?

Hopefully this experiment will encourage not only myself but all of us to listen to ourselves more, empower us to live lives the way we want to live and enable us all to be better happier persons.

And from thence, we start.

Dear Beth,

I wish you could see how happy you could be right now and for the rest of your life.
If only you could turn that switch off in your head and focus on what’s good in life.
Money is of no question. It doesn’t matter.
Stop worrying about how you’re going to pay bills and start living!
Their is a whole world of amazing experiences to be had, if you would just have them.

Stop being scared. Because fear is holding you back from doing what you really want to do.
Start loving more because people around you want your love and you not showing it as much as you can, allows them to think that you don’t love them at all.

Stop complaining and moaning all the time. You’re becoming a drip.

And also, start accepting, that this is you!
Yes, you are tough headed like your mum and yes, you are affectionate and physically resemble your dad.
Just because they made terrible mistakes in the past does not mean that you are destined to do the same.
You have the power to change your life and to make everything greater than they ever did.

When someone hurts you, you don’t have to give up on them and cut them off.
Dad did a lot of mean stuff but cutting him off has left him destitute and in a bad way and you still care about him! Don’t deny it!
You still care about your mother too and want to make things easy for her. You know it!
You want your little brother to grow up having opportunities you never did and financial freedom to live life to the fullest.
Start making those little changes. Start being the change they need.
Exude the care that is inside of you.

Beth, it’s important that you understand to just go with what’s going.
Just flow like yoga teaches you.
Just because you’re feeling this or doing that, does not mean that everything is a big disaster.
It’s just change and change is good.
Accept it. Love it. Live it.

Finally, like all great people have told you and taught you, love yourself above any other.
Take your time to do something you want to do. Treat yourself! Don’t deprive yourself! Don’t punish yourself! You don’t need to do that anymore.

Everything is going to be okay in the end. If it’s not okay, it’s not the end.
Just chill.
Just be.
Just be you.
Be strong and independent.
Take control of yourself, your past, your present and your future.
You can do it.
I believe in you.
God bless.

If I could hug you, I would.
If I could step outside of you, I would tell you everything is going to be okay, wipe your tears when they fall, hold you tight when you’re scared and love you when it seems like no one else does.
I would do all of that and more for you.
Because you mean everything to me.
You are me.
And together, we have to look after each other.
No one else can do it.
And I wouldn’t want to be coupled with anyone else in order to conquer this world.
I love you.

Yours sincerely and whole heartedly,
You.

Criticism: words to make you think.

Criticism is a scary word to some people. It holds a whole universe of fear and terror for some.

But like everything, you can learn to be friends with the big bad criticism in your life.

That’s right.
You don’t have to cower in the corner, shy away from your boss, leave the continent and never be seen or heard of again, as I would likely have done in the past.

I recently received some minor criticism on an article I had published, named “men and their exes”.
This wasn’t just any criticism…this was personal criticism.

It was directed at my home life and the relationship I share with my partner, and, as you can imagine, it cut deep.

And after I had wallowed in self pity and hung my head like the “naughty girl” I am, for upsetting someone else, I began to realise that actually, that is just this person’s opinion.
And why should I care about their opinion?
I knew that what was said had no truth in it at all.
I just hate the thought that someone thinks bad of me.

But in the words of Rihanna, “people gon’ talk whether you’re doing bad or good”

And after all, criticism, is just someone’s opinion.

Ask another person and they will probably tell you something different.
Maybe they’ll even tell you that what you have done is great!

The great thing about criticism is that, it helps anyone and everyone to look at their work, reevaluate and readjust, readapt their work if they really care about it that much and it makes them better at what they do.
It fuels the fire of greatness!

In my case, I’m not going to change anything about the article I published, because what I did write is the truth.
And in life, in writing, I hold the truth higher than anything.
That is my opinion.

If the criticism had been something like “it’s so boring!”, “Their are spelling mistakes all over the joint!”, then maybe, just maybe, I might have tweaked something.

What I have learnt from this particular experience though, and what we can all gain knowledge from, is that:

A-their is always going to be someone who has a different opinion to you and who is going to feel outgoing enough to express their opinion in a way that offends,

And B-to reevaluate all work, to look at how others might see it and make changes as and where appropriate.

So if you have somebody who likes to occasionally tell you what they think, accept it, learn from it.
Tears will be wasted if you cry over this great opportunity to improve yourself.
Befriend the great criticism!

If, on the other hand, you have a big bad wolf in your life who likes to tell you that they are right and you are wrong very often, then I strongly suggest you tell them where to go.
Because you are right, and you know you’re right.
And it’s about time you started believing that.

Art: what is it?

What is art?
What is in art?

I see beautiful stretches of ink and pencil, lines, circles, shapes that have no real meaning in my life, until I look at this picture, this piece of art.

I see passion.
A person, a human being, has put every ounce of passion within their being, into making this piece of art the best that they could ever possibly deliver.

It is thrilling.
It is inspiring.
It is beautiful.

The shade on the face, the long strokes of hair, the defined jaw line and the piercing eyes.
A portrait made with love and passion.

To the world, it is just a drawing. A sketch.
To me, it is the product of amazing, inspiring, passionate love.

The piece of art you see, is a sketch of myself.
It was gifted to me by somebody I love dearly, who also happens to be a budding artist.

I believe their is love of art within everyone.
Whether you love the art of dance, music, writing, photography, acting, it is your choice.
But, let your love for art be free and unrelenting.
And happiness will find you.

Sketch courtesy of Lewis Chudasama.

WANTED: a baby!

As a woman, I am willing to admit that within the last 8-12 months, I have been feeling new feelings.
New broody, motherly feelings.

And I would be lying right now, if I said, I don’t want a baby.

You see, on the one side, I consider myself still too young to have a baby.
Plus, when I want to go out, who’s going to take care of the baby?
When are me and my partner going to find time for eachother?
When we go on holiday, who is going to watch the baby while I bathe in the sun and drink cocktails?
Who is going to clean the poop out of the carpet and the snot off of the walls?

But on the other side,
Part of me yearns to have a little bundle, to cuddle and to kiss.
All broody women must know this feeling.
That longing, hurting feeling inside which you just can’t shake.
A feeling that is fundamental to womanhood and reproduction.
We want a little baby to teach and to guide, a little person who we can be ultimately proud of and to clap for and shout and smile and laugh when they do silly things or gain achievements.

A little Max or Jessica to bestow all worldly gifts on and those other gifts that can only come through unconditional love and family.
I long to see a little baby, that has parts of me and parts of my wonderful partner in their little face, their little smile, their little fingers and toes and their little eyes.

I guess it all comes down to commitment right?

You see, part of me is ready to commit and be that person for that baby.
But the other half is scared and uncertain.

What if?
What if?
What if?

I long to hear that baby cry.
I long to see their beautiful face.
I long to hold that person, knowing that I created it, that it came from me and my partner.
The baby is a seal to the love he and I share together and the love we can bestow on to our child.

One thing I am certain of though, is that my partner is not ready to have children.
He has told me numerous times, over and over, every time I have mentioned it.
And it’s not that I can’t wait.
It’s just the feeling I have inside, it burns me almost, to long for something, knowing that i can’t have it just yet. If I could just wait a little longer….

But it just seems as though, now, is not the right time for us. Even though it hurts.

Maybe next year….

New to blogging

I am new to blogging.

I recently set up a few weeks ago, with no relative experience whatsoever.

What I did have though, and the reason behind my setting up a blog, is that I can write.

Not only can I write, I can write well.

I enjoy writing. I love writing.

I write all day, every day.

I keep a journal and I am forever writing down to-do lists and appointments and what I need to buy at the grocery store.

More than this, I have a weird and creative imagination and a strong will to do what I love in life.

I recently quit my job, because I was so unhappy working there.
I was so unhappy and felt like it was time wasted when I could be doing something I really love to do.

I felt like my life was slipping out of my grasp and up until a month or so ago, I had no idea what it was that I wanted to do.
I had no idea what I enjoyed.

I knew that I love meeting new people and I knew that I love helping them and supporting them with their problems.
It breaks my heart to see anyone down in the dumps and then I have to do something about it.

So here I am, a short while later.

Okay so I have no income and have limited savings to live off which is frightening, considering I have bills to pay, not major ones but still need to be paid.

It is also concerning that all my friends and people I know are at work during the day.
There is no one to hang out with.

But what I am really thankful for, is writing.

This morning, I posted an article “Littlest pleasures of life”
And within 30 minutes, bloggers had liked it.

That simple like, just the one, made me feel so great inside.
It made me feel so thankful and like I am on the right path.

That some random stranger from across the world, took the time, just to read my article AND liked it, means so much to me.
And that random stranger becomes a friend and a part of my blogging family 😊

And now the days aren’t so lonely anymore.
I get to write. I get to meet new like minded people and help them with their problems.
And eventually one day, I will come up with a good idea to create an income doing what I love and live for and be able to provide for my loved ones.

Amen!

Just want to say, A HUGE BIG THANKYOU, to all my followers and fellow bloggers who have enjoyed the posts.

Keep in touch and take care of yourselves.

Littlest pleasures in life

Everybody who has ever lived has known some kind of pleasure, no matter how great or small.
Here are some of the things that bring us a little piece of ecstasy every day.

Spreading out starfish in a big bed!
I don’t know about you but I just love the feeling of jumping into bed, and spreading out starfish style. It feels so good and the freshness and coldness of the bed gives me a buzz through my entire body.
Can’t beat that feeling.

Spending quality time with someone you love
What is more enjoyable and pleasant than spending quality time with someone you really love? Be it your mum, your sibling, your grandparent, your lover, your best friend even.
And when I say quality, I mean the kind of time spent doing something meaningful to both of you.
For me, my partner and I both enjoy snuggling down, watching movies on the sofa. I love going for walks with my little brother and I really enjoy having meaningful conversations with my nan.
It is also important for me, as an individual, to create quality time to spend with myself. For example, I will go to a yoga class or write in my journal or take a long hot steamy bath. Because it’s important to me, to make time for me.

Waking up without the alarm going off after a long restful sleep.
Oh that feeling! That feeling!
You know how it feels on a Saturday morning, after five long tiresome days of being literally forced out of bed by the alarm clock at 6am, to wake of your own accord in your big comfy warm and snuggly bed without that harsh beeping sound violating your ears.
That feeling is worth living for!

That feeling you get when you jump into a steamy hot bath after a stressful day.
(Let me rephrase-steamy hot bath that doesn’t burn when you jump in!)
It’s been a long day.
The boss is getting up your arse about how you’re lacking
Your mum called asking when you’re coming over for dinner again
Your best friend wants your advice on her latest lover
And your brother wants a loan to invest in the latest fashionable death trap.
There is only one solution to the hustle and bustle of this crazy life.
That’s right! Jump in the bath!
The feeling you get, that “and release, and breathe” feeling cannot be replaced with any other I know of.
Feeling stressed? You know what to do.

Eating warm food and taking warm drinks after coming in from the cold.
Ooohhhh remember those days that were snowed on and you couldn’t get to work so you went outside and played instead?
How could you forget?
That biting wind that sealed your extremities in a layer of frost?
Remember coming inside, stripping off your wet clothes, sitting down by the warmest place you could find with your soup and your tea?
Ahhh what bliss! The feeling of warmth running through your body again.

Feeling the warmth of the sun on your skin on a hot summers day 🙂
Ahhh the feeling of summer is nearby indeed.

A certain smell that reminds you of old times or old memories.
For me, the most potent scent I have ever come across and have only come across once since the last time I smelt it, is my grandfathers cigars.
What an amazing smell!

A small baby in your arms 🙂
Again this is one to tug at your heart strings.
That maternal feeling I get when I hold a little baby in my arms is unlike any other feeling I know.
It’s crazy but it’s there.
I can’t wait to have my own little family 🙂

Fresh open air!
When you go outside into the open after a long time shut away indoors and that long breath of cold fresh air invades your body.
It’s amazing isn’t it!

Candlelight.
Candlelight is an amazing source of calm.
You may not know it yet but lighting really affects your mood.
Bright and harsh lighting can make you feel alert and exactly that, harsh.
Soft and calm lighting makes you feel calm and sensible and sensitive and happy 🙂

The feeling of accomplishing something!
So you’ve just finished the book you’ve been reading forever or you’ve just graduated from university!
No matter how big or small your accomplishment is, celebrate it!
Acknowledge that you have worked hard to get where you are because that feeling of greater understanding, of growth and gain is a feeling that should be and can be cherished over and over again 🙂 never get tired of accomplishing things 🙂

One word: PARTY!!!!!
Everyone loves a party.
When you can let your hair down, wear something really daring, get drunker than your aunt and dance in weird ways that you don’t really care about anymore.
The feeling of being able to do that and to have a good time is sweet.
Go out there, look for your party!!

Last but NOT LEAST
Receiving love and giving love.
For those of you who have families and have happiness and have gratitude and all of those wonderful things in your life, you will know the special feeling of giving love and getting it back in return.
Whether it’s with your best friend, from your baby son or daughter, your partner or wife or husband or your mum or dad.
Keep loving 🙂

Life is 100,000,000 million times better when you’re laughing.

Life is a hundred million times better when you’re laughing.

Why?

Because you are doing something which you love.
Which you’re passionate about.
Having fun.

We all want to have fun right?
And when you’re doing more of that, life is less like a chore and more like a blessing.

In terms of career and work and creating an income,
How can you make money by doing what you love?

In terms of a relationship,
How can you better your relationship by doing what you love?

In terms of family,
How can you be there for them by doing what you love?

These questions all heed great answers don’t they.
But it’s hard to make money doing something you love.
It’s just not that easy…right?
Wrong!!!

You know what, if you love doing something, do it!
Do it as much or as little as you want to regardless of how much money it brings.

And in the end, when you’re having fun and doing what you love, others see that too and infinitesimally want a piece of that, increasing your chances of greater income and giving you the life you want.

Start today.

God bless 😊
Keep going!!

How to get the best from life, now!

It is time now, to stop worrying.
It is time now, to stop doubting yourself.
It is time now, to realise how much your life is worth.

Chances are that if you’re reading this article, you are stuck in a rut in life and want to find a way out, or you are just curious as to how you can improve the quality of your life.

As a young woman who has been there and done that, got the t-shirt and the battle scars to go with it, I can honestly tell you that life on the other side isn’t as hard as you may think it is.

You can regain a better perspective of life, you can find yourself, you can start again.
Because life is about you, what you want, and how you’re going to get it.

First and foremost, you must take responsibility for yourself.
Accept that this is where you have got yourself in life so far,
for whatever reasons that may be.
But you must understand that this is not your “fault”.
This is your time to change.

Next, you must become selfish!
Think about yourself and what you want, because no one else is going to do it or achieve it for you.
You are number one and you must put yourself first at all times.

Don’t know what you really want from life?
Think about how you would describe yourself.
Are you happy?
Are you sad?
Why?
Where do you want to be in five years time?
What makes you, you?
What are your values, your talents and you passions?
What makes you happy?
What are you thankful for?

In order to move forward and make positive changes to our lifestyles, we must first gain greater understanding of who we really are and what it is that we really want for ourselves.

Answering these questions won’t fix all your problems, but your answers will hopefully enable you to become aware of what makes you happy, what it is that you really want and who you want to be.

The next step, is to go out into the world and be you! Make them changes!
Do what it is that you want to do, be who you want to be, don’t let anyone stop you!
Find courage, feel the fear and do it anyway.
You can do it. I believe in you!

In addition to the above steps, there are some things you can do to cultivate more happiness in your life.

Travel to new places!
It broadens our experiences and allows us to learn new things about the world.

Talk to someone. Get yourself out there, go to a new class, talk to someone you have never talked to before and make new friends!
A good support system is what every happy and healthy person needs during tough times.
Don’t forget about the friends you already have though, they will be missing you too!

Play sports! Dance! Swim! Do anything!
Exercise is a proven feel good activity and can enhance your happiness millions of times over.
It’s great for the muscles and for your heart health too and it releases those ever important happy hormones.

Find your creative outlet!
Do you enjoy writing? Do you enjoy drawing? Creating music? Painting? Scrap booking? Gardening?
Whatever you enjoy, there is a million and one classes and art and craft stores all over the nation ready and willing to help you get started. Plus, using your hands to do practical things increases happiness!

Get outside!
Go for a walk, a hike, go for a bike ride, a run!
You know what, get down to the park and take a picnic with you!
Enjoy what the world has to offer. It is here for you to see.
It is here for your perusal. Fresh air and green spaces are key to finding peace and happiness in life.

Finally, if you are really finding it tough to cope with life, do not be afraid to ask for help.
Do not doubt yourself or listen to those people who think you should “just snap out of it”.
You know yourself, trust your instincts and go to the doctor.

Although many people do not like the idea of taking medication to get happy, it really does help you to feel better and to gain a clearer understanding and perspective of yourself.

Don’t hesitate.

Take care.

Bethany B